The Gingers Guide to Life

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1. What someone else thinks and says about you is none of your business.

2. Quite often the way people treat you is a reflection of how you treat them.

3. Relationships are so much more exciting when you don’t live in each other’s pocket.

4. I was pissed off at someone’s bad behaviour the other day and my dad said ‘use it as motivation to not be like that’.

5. It baffles me how people go into a new work place and find they don’t like someone or vice versa then wonder WHY it’s that way. It is because no matter how nice you are there is always gonna be someone out there who you butt heads with. Just do you, boo and damn the naysayers.

6. Is it just me or is anyone else feeling confused about food right now? There is a new diet left, right and centre. I mean….what on earth should I have for dinner?!

7. Meditation will change your life I promise. All you need is an app. And a smart phone.

8. If you have done things in the morning then find yourself bored as all hell in the afternoon – don’t feel bad. It’s called relaxing.

9. Things will never be good or bad all the time. Enjoy the happy medium.

10. Winging times and dates of interviews is not the way to reduce your OCD tendencies and anxiety. I’m sorry, but it’s true.

The Gingers Guide to Life

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1. There comes a time in life where you have to put your big girl pants on and resolve conflict like an adult. I’ve dealt with my fair share i.e work, friends, family and there are some times where there is nothing you can do. When you can do things – be clear, concise and diplomatic. I always find saying ‘I understand X feeling but Y was the reason’ works a treat. Don’t bring up shit from the past, don’t yell, try not to cry and know when to let it go. In the words of Katy Perry ‘Choose your battles babe and you will win the war’.

2. I gained some KGs in the past year and a half making it very hard for me to feel attractive and good in jeans. I knew I needed another option coz it gets cold here and I am all about the Richard Branson on a cruise x Elizabeth Taylor x Rihanna print style pants. The brighter and bolder the better. Get amongst, yo.

3. Why is it that the ol’ internet stalk still feels somewhat normal even though it’s totes creepy? Curiosity, my friend. I don’t know about you but there is always someone who you do not give one f about but still find them oddly interesting. I’m gonna stop coz this feels weird but I want to write about this more.

4. Preemptive dumping is one of the smartest things you can do. Sure, there’s doubts and what not but de ja vu but you see patterns it’s best to stop what you’re doing and reevaluate your dating situation.

5. Treat your relationship with exercise like you would with a lover. Mix it up everyday otherwise you will get bored and quit.

6. Girl Code on MTV is the new black

7. The hardest part about ending it with someone you like but just don’t see anything good coming out of it is explaining to your friends that the other person is okay despite them being a bit of a douchebag.

8. Morning exercise sets the perfect tone to your day. Waking up early is the worst but if you mix some pre work out up then have it ready on your bedside table Bob’s your uncle.

The Gingers Guide to Life – Love advice for my 16 year old self

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Dear 16 year old Anna

You’re at an age now where you want a boyfriend. Now, it will be a few years till you start dating but I want you to know a few things. If I could go back in time this is what I would want you to know.

1. I know you’re bummed that he doesn’t like you back but calm down coz there will be plenty more. That dumb saying ‘There’s plenty more fish in the sea’ rings true. Do not send him 500 Facebook messages telling him you miss him. It makes you look crazy and won’t change a thing.

2. Just coz he likes you lots and you like him lots doesn’t mean you should compromise all your free time to be with him. Your best friends boyfriend will tell you in a drunk heart to heart in a few years that when it’s right they will fit into your life easily.

3. Slow the frick down! I know you have one speed (like Charlie Sheen on crack) and like everything all at once but take it easy girlfriend. If it works it works if it doesn’t then refer back to number 1.

4. Being single isn’t a bad thing. I know society, media and older family have made us feel like dicks if we’re single but utilise this time to fall in love (or even more in love) with yourself. Learning to be happy alone is one of the greatest things.

5. Shave your legs and tidy your pubes regularly. Even if you are going on a self date. Just…..please do it.

6. Just coz he’s hot doesn’t mean he’s going to be a flawless.

7. Looks definitely aren’t everything. Go for someone who will make you laugh and has good thoughts. I promise you great things come from here.

8. Keep your legs shut for a while. If you like someone do not be afraid to hold out.

9. Trust your instincts above all else. Your friends will remind you of the evidence that he likes you in moments of doubt but you will know if he does. Trust you instincts! Everyone has their own experience etc but take any advice you get lightly.

10. Don’t be afraid to be gutsy or pull someone up on their bullshit. No one needs that!

11. Never date someone who is leaving. It will hurt your feelings a lot.

Love
23 year old Anna

The Gingers Guide to Life pt. 12

1. Stop putting yourself second all the time! You are your number one fo’ ever.

2. Contingency plans are where it’s at. Having a plan b is always the way to go. Sometimes your plans change and you need something to fill the space of broken promises and dreams.

3. I remain convinced that sitcoms and a massive serving of any Chinese take away of your choice takes away any form of pain for a little while. Get into it. Community, How I met Your Mother, New Girl, Scrubs, etc. I promise you your troubles will be less shit if you have something to smile about.

4. Give yourself space from your life every so often. Turn off your phone, lap top and any other form of communication and go sit by a lake or the ocean for a bit. The ultimate form of relaxation. I just deactivated my facebook for a bit to get away from the world.

5. Remember, before you got in a relationship you had a life. If you’re letting that life you worked hard for (friends, family, work out plans, etc) slip through your fingers then you’re doing it wrong yo.

6. If you can give people shit you must be able to take it back. No one likes to walk on egg shells all the time.

7. Making plans to do things by yourself is one of the best things ever.

8. Make yourself a bad day kit (my new fave combo = snow fairy body wash from lush, Red – Taylor Swift and bed) because sometimes life deals you a shit hand and there is something really nice about coming home to nice things.

9. Don’t be a dick

10. Sometimes you have to force limitations on yourself to be a better person. After drinking pretty solidly lately I have decided to take a break off the turps. Look after yourself!

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The Gingers Guide to Life pt. 11

1. I had an interesting situation on Sunday. I’ll cut to the chase on this but if you’re going to accuse someone of something so ridiculously awful at least have solid evidence that they did it rather than….I dunno…threatening issuing a restraining order!

2. In saying that, if you hate someone then cull them. Don’t message them, don’t do anything shitty or revenge like – cull. Your time is way, way, WAY too precious to be wasted on petty bullshit.

3. On Saturday I spent the entire day by myself doing things for myself sans iPod. It was bloody lovely to walk around and make myself look as pretty as I feel on the inside. Oh STOP IT.

4. My mother once said to me ‘You certainly don’t suffer fools gladly!’ Boy was she right. I urge you to do the same. It’s like insurance for your soul.

5. Whenever you’re in a rut think ‘What would Dr Dre think about this?’ Works a treat.

6. Sometimes you just need a good night out with a group of people of the same gender, copious amounts of alcohol and some sweet tunes.

7. You know everything is good when you have next to no money but you’re still outrageously happy.

8. One of my favourite pieces of advice is ‘Treat yourself like you’re your own child’ from Alexi Wasser. It’s one of the rules I live by especially in situations where vulnerability is concerned.

9. You know who your friends are when the shit hits the fan.

10. Never let anyone soil your name. It’s an insult to your identity. No shit I know but god damn some bitches be massive haters!

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The Gingers Guide to Life pt. 10

1. When you’re talking about what time something happened in the morning and say something like ‘It happened at 10am in the morning’ adding the am is completely redundant!

2. Regardless of what kind of day I’m having I always like to think about things I love or things I am grateful for when I’m walking around the city. There is no nicer reminder than the things that bring you happiness.

3. Every time a friendship or relationship ends write down the good and the bad. Both are grand reminders for what you want in the future.

4. Stop going on about how fat and/or ugly you are. No one wants to hear it, damn it! Learn to love your face or get plastic surgery. If you’re sick of being over weight them start working out. Stop fishing for compliments, damn it!

5. If you want people to like you and hang out with you emotional black mail is not the way to go about it.

6. Bad day fixer – chocolate + Gilmore Girls + an early night!

7. When everything turns to shit make a list of things that make you happy. Then look back at number 2. It’s always easier to remember what you don’t have rather than what you do.

8. Instead of thinking about what so and so thinks about you how about you think about what you think of you. Bitches ain’t shit.

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The Gingers Guide to Life pt. 9

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1. I want to make a PSA for all the young guys and gals out there. Someday you’re going to go home with someone (or vice versa), you’ll have sex, maybe cuddle for a bit afterwards and in the morning you’ll expect everything to be like the end of a rom com (excluding 500 days of Summer). It’s not. You wake up, leave as soon as possible (but check out your hair in the mirror first) then get home as quickly as possible. It is called a one night stand for a reason. Do not torture yourself with him or her not getting in touch, don’t add them on facebook and don’t get their number. I mean, each situation can be a little different but stop yourself and enjoy what little dignity you have after the experience and take the experience for what it is –  incredibly average drunk sex.

2. Sometimes I just wish people would get a diary and stop making all their private biz public on Facebook. I could really care less about your first world issues.

3. “one of the most annoying things is when someone is way more alive via texting than they are in person.” – Alexi Wasser

4. I know you’re hurting and what not but you need to get the fuck over it. Thinking about it wont do you any good and in twenty years time you wont give two fucks about this moment so just soldier on, okay?!

5. I’m currently obsessed with the ‘My fitness pal’ app. I find it so interesting to see how much fat, protein, calories, etc is in the food I eat and how much exercise goes into burning even the healthiest of foods! It has made me look at restructuring my eating patterns and will (fingers crossed!) help me become better at grocery shopping. Logging what you eat and how many calories you’re consuming is the way to go if you’re looking at losing weight. Good habits to keep for the rest of your life! Plus the website is hella interesting.

6. When all of your products (i.e shampoo, conditioner, washing powder etc) get half empty replace them. I promise this will change your life. There is nothing worse than reaching the end of pay day with bugger all coin and an empty cupboard and having to spend your money on frickin toothpaste.

7. WHY have you not watched Gilmore Girls yet? I was asking myself the same question a few weeks back and have started watching it from the beginning. Time well spent.

8. I live my life knowing that no matter how crap everything is at the moment it will soon pass, everything will go back to normal and I will become a stronger person because of it. May seem lame but hot damn is it true.

9. Pretty sure Spice up your life was the motivating anthem of the ’90s.

10. YOLO – carpe diem etc. Don’t let a moment go to waste on stupid shit, stupid people, and bad coffee (#YOLOL?)

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